Speed Dating

That’s right… Speed Dating.

I know it might sound crazy, but sometimes all it takes is five minutes with an open mind in an environment outside your comfort zone for your heart to find it’s home.

If someone had told me a year ago when I was signing up for speed dating that would meet my soul mate, my future husband there I would not have believed them. I didn’t sign up to meet the man of my dreams, I just went for the chance to practice talking to people, and for the laugh I knew it would be. I watched Geek Love, I knew what I was in for.

You know what? I did get some laughs, and experienced strange time vortexes where five minutes seemed to take a very awkward eternity. I also experienced the opposite, where five minutes wasn’t nearly enough. There were some memorable dudes, like Crying Cat Guy, Green Lantern – the Lover of Running, Hurley – who wouldn’t even look at me once he found out how old I was, and David. The twelve other guys I talked to were all worth it to meet my David.

In a world of social media and telecommuting, it seems that every year out of high school or university it gets harder and harder to meet someone, and this is especially true when you have been out of the dating scene for a while. Then you see the ads for online dating and it might sound like a good idea… “One in five relationships now begin online” maybe you could be that one in five…
What i found with online dating was this: when you do online dating you take someone’s words and you give them voice. You take 1 dimension (2 if they have pictures) and create in your mind an idea of how this person is in 3 dimensions. How often are you wrong? I tried online dating a few times over the years, and I was always wrong.
With speed dating, though, your first experiences that three dimensional interaction. You see the personality even if it is for only 5 minutes and you can choose whether or not that person is someone you would want to spend another 5 minutes with. And from there you can decide if you want to spend a couple of hours, 6 months, a year, forever with them. And if you end up emailing after those first five minutes you can take what you learned in your first meeting to place a 3D mental image on the words on your screen.

I met 13 guys the evening I met David. I am so happy that he was one of the guys at my speed dating session, but even if he hadn’t been there, I’d still have been glad for the chance to try it.
Sci-Fi Speed Dating at a fandom convention isn’t right for everyone. And I definitely don’t think you should go to a Con just to try speed dating, but there are speed dating events separate from such nerd/geekdom.
25Dates hosted the speed dating sessions at FanExpo last year.

I believe the statement “love finds you when you’re not looking for it” is true. I also know that a lot of people left my speed dating session without matches. I don’t think you should go into a speed dating session thinking that your heart’s home is in that room, but if you go in with the idea that you can meet a bunch of interesting and unique individuals, and to experience something new you just might be surprised.

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