I am writing this just two days after my previous post, but I know that by the time you are reading this, more time has passed. This buffer is here for me and my heart and to protect Malcolm and Brooklyn as well.
The blood work had to be redone. We are out of the running for this month. We have completed almost all of the paperwork. Malcolm and I met with Dr M2 on Friday and she went over the consents that we needed to sign, and I am uncertain if we need one more appointment with the IVF nurse or if it was just Brooklyn who needed that. But the IVF meds have been ordered, and Brooklyn will be able to pick those up when we are ready. When will we be ready?
It was an emotion filled couple of days as we excitedly prepared for the start of Brooklyn’s cycle and making sure that she was all set up with cycle monitoring and then the shock of finding out that things like this blood work and consents had been missed. The IVF nurse told Brooklyn and me that since the contracts had only been signed in December that we were making good time. When we tried to explain that we have actually been doing this journey since June, she just got quiet. In our meeting with Dr M2 she gently expressed her empathy for our frustration and explained that the clinic is trying to streamline it’s approach to surrogacy and embryo donation, but that during this transition phase, the roles are not quite clear and things are falling through the cracks. She listened to our comments on our frustrations and took note. Malcolm and I both felt heard. She then asked if it was okay to bring Brooklyn into the call and we all discussed the IVF protocol.
We have missed a January transfer, and that is disappointing. After we got off the call with Dr M2, we had a video call just with Brooklyn. She commented to us that she is more disappointed for us than for herself because of how long we have been on this journey for and how much our arms must ache to hold our baby. We commented that we are more disappointed for her because she has committed far more of her time to this journey than any of us had anticipated.
We then moved onto other topics and there were smiles and laughter and hope present in the call. I am super bad at secrets and surprises and I shared with Brooklyn that I had gotten some storybooks for her kiddos about surrogacy. These books explain surrogacy at a level that is age appropriate and they were recommended to me by others in the surrogacy community. My plan had been to gift them when pregnancy was confirmed, but this call seemed like a good time to share. My plan now is to bring the books when we meet up for the transfer and give them to her then.
As it stands, we should be able to tie up all of the loose ends before Brooklyn’s next cycle… This is still speculation and who knows what could happen or not happen between now and Brooklyn’s next cycle that could push our transfer out by another month… Or more…
Stay tuned!
ananee 
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